The question of involuntarliy coming out...

Unfortunately the young guy from the last post did not contact me, I wonder how he is doing? Anyway, I received a comment in my email from a reader of my blog. He sent me a "Dear Abby" column that was in a local paper he read that day It went like this:
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GRANDDAD HOPES TO OPEN GIRL'S EYES AND HEAD OFF HEARTBREAK

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I recently visited our daughter and two
beautiful grandchildren, "Mary" (age 17) and "Patrick" (age 15). Mary
has a boyfriend I'll call "Brandon" who is all she has talked about
since we arrived. She's quite smitten.

One night I was having trouble falling asleep and decided to go
downstairs for a glass of wine. As I descended the stairs, I noticed
Patrick and Brandon locked in a passionate embrace on the couch. They
never noticed me, and I quietly returned upstairs. The boys'
lovemaking did not help my insomnia.

I haven't mentioned what I saw to anybody. I am not bothered by the
gay aspect of the encounter I witnessed. However, my paternal
instincts make me want to protect Mary from being hurt. I don't
believe in meddling, but I'm not sure keeping silent is right, either.
Any advice? -- SURPRISED GRANDPOP IN PHILLY

DEAR GRANDPOP: I assume that Patrick has not yet come out to the
family about his sexual orientation. If that's the case, then I don't
recommend you out him by telling his sister what you saw. I do,
however, think you should discuss it with Patrick, because he should
be the one to tell Mary she shouldn't pin her hopes on Brandon, as
he's not the person he may pretend to be.

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His question to me was; what would I do if a family member saw and confronted me with my bisexuality?

At first thought, I am very happy I do not have to answer this question for real. I got to thinking though. I have been very careful all my adult life to be discrete and try to blend my bisexuality into my life without arousing suspicions. There was one moment of poor judgment fairly recently that just about blew my cover at work. I hooked up with a gay guy at work and he saw fit to spread it around my work place. He promised me he would not! Oddly enough it really went nowhere, some people took it as gossip and my really close friends just told me what was going around and really never questioned me on it. It eventually died down. In the long run I am no longer working at that organization anyway. Just as a side note; my then boss very confidentially took me aside and gave me a general warning about workplace relationships without accusing me of anything. She was very cool about it ( she is gay by the way). Throughout my working years I have almost never mixed my social life with my work life so it's highly unlikely any of my family members would have found out about this.

I suppose in my personal life it would be more difficult to deny if I was caught in the act. I then would have no choice but to start the painful process of coming out that I now avoid at all cost. I have a very strong feeling my wife knows I am bisexual as she has asked me twice over the course of our married life. Both times I did not have the balls to admit it (I admit to being a coward on this issue). We have also fantasized about mfm threesomes and have watched some bi porn together. So she is not totally in the dark, I think... I understand the difference between thinking you know something and actually finding out it's true. So if she should find out I am sure I will have a real problem on my hands. Maybe this is wishful thinking or I am totally naive but after the initial shock of finding out for sure we would come to some kind of workable solution for the both of us. Whether our marriage remains in tack is another question. I have taken enough time on this "what if" question and have to get back to life.

The days are getting longer and spring is close to springing.